You're happy doer. Both can work together for anyone with a growth mindest. Examine these simple tips.
Disclaimer:
This article is an opinion piece for informative purposes only, not mental health advice or consultation. Consult with your mental health professionals if you need help.
We all complain.
But chronic complaining is doing less. Are you a doer or complainer? Which one do you prefer?
Many people complain about undesirable service in a restaurant and injustice in their backyards and public squares.
What do you complain about?
Sometimes, I use a protest strategy to gain insight into new ideas or alternative solutions to my problem. Often, I debate and question myself.
Happy doers are happy complainers. Happy-doers do something before they complain about things or people.
Before you protest, examine these tips for your personal growth.
- Do your homework,
- Reflect on your core values,
- Be a happy giver.
I. Do your homework:
Do your homework. Check for alternative solutions before you complain about things or people.
Do you have experience with what you are complaining about? Are you an expert on the issue you are criticizing?
A former NBA star, Micheal Jordan, and billionaire Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban are known in the US to own the chief complainer's title. They never quiet when they want something and rarely back down. When they lose, they complain about losing.
As you know, in the sports arena, both men are doers and have the license to whine about everything and everyone that gets in their way to get what they want.
Enjoy this:
Complain about things or people you know or understand.
II. Reflect on Your Core values:
What are your core values? Some examples are freedom, health, wisdom, education, objective truth, career, family, faith, money, happiness, beauty, love, hate, etc.
Once, I heard a story of a CEO who left his wife and child in a labor room to attend his company's annual board meeting.
He left his wife and newborn in the hospital to attend his company's annual meeting. Maybe he made the right decision. However, he complained about leaving his family in the hospital.
The CEO chose not to reflect on his family values or leadership skills before making a final decision.
Happy doers always do things based on their core values, complain about anything that interferes with them, and tell anyone who cares to listen.
What would you do if you were in the CEO's shoes? Join the conversation below.
Be a happy complainer and believe in your core values.
Enjoy this:
Write down your core values and check if they are still yours in today's world.
III. Be a happy giver and happy complainer:
Adam Grant, an American author and psychologist, explains that givers are well-respected in their inner circle and beyond. That is, people respond to happy givers who need help or protest about something.
People love and listen to a happy giver. When we share our time and knowledge with others, they will likely listen to our complaints.
Why?
A happy complainer rarely complains or whines about trivial things.
Enjoy this:
Be a happy giver and a happy doer.
This story was first published on my website. Happy Sunday.