"There is none so blind as he who will not see."
I’m a big fan of courtroom TV. And each week, from the ring-side seat in my bedroom, I witness some of the same cases come before a judge for resolution.
Whether I watch Judge Mathis, Divorce Court, Judge Judy, Or Judge Marilyn, it never fails. Some smitten female is found trying to recover her dignity and lost ass-ets, seized by some sweet talking, skilled lover, who left her high and dry.
Usually it’s the result of not doing her homework, or what I like to call due diligence in dating.
It’s not that I’m unsympathetic or even jugdemental. I’m simply baffled.
Don’t they watch TV, read the news, heed the headlines?
Though I agree that love is sometimes blind (been there done that), it should never be deaf and dumb too!
Horror stories abound of women losing thousands of dollars, businesses, their credit, homes, and other valuables. It's so unfortunate.
But here’s my take on this topic… Love is truly risky enough without having to pay attention to your pocket book. Get where I’m coming from?
HERE’S HOW TO DO YOUR HOMEWORK IN MATTERS OF THE HEART…
6 Savvy ways to do your own "under cover" work before getting under the covers!
- Keep your eyes and ears open for inconsistencies in what he says, whether it’s how long he’s been divorced, his job, or his history. Often little lies lead to big ones.
- Don’t be afraid to ask a guy with whom you’ve had no previous contact or knowledge to see some I.D. ( a driver’s license or a business card for starters). It’s better that he be “offended” than for you to come up M.I.A.!
- Check public records. Many things can be checked out at your local court house---divorces, bankruptcies, property ownership, etc.
- Google him from the privacy of your own home. Google is a great tool for uncovering websites, profiles on My Space or Facebook, professional affiliations, comments on bulletin boards, class mates, complaints, etc.
- Check out some of the reputation management websites--- like Don't Date Him Girl. But don’t use this info as gospel. Some of it may not be accurate.
- Pray for divine discernment. Nobody’s judgment is perfect 100% of the time, so here’s where a little help can make all the difference.
Final Thought
Always keep in mind the words of a famous president…
”Trust, but verify!”