There are many philosophies when it comes to parenting and how you should raise your kids. While it can help to study various parenting philosophies, when it comes down to it you have to use your own judgment and see what works best for you. Yet we can come up with a few principles, such as we'll be covering in this article, that most parents can benefit from.
Some parents, either deliberately or without thinking about it, practice what is called permissive parenting. This is a parenting style where discipline, if present at all, is kept to a minimum. While this extreme type of permissiveness isn't all that common, we've all seen examples of it in public. Too much permissiveness can not only make your kids a burden on other people, it makes life difficult for the kids as well. Children who are raised without limits often end up having difficulty fitting into society, as they find out that the rest of the world isn't as indulgent as their home was. Being too permissive is an unhealthy extreme that results in children growing up with little sense of security.
Is it possible to change your child's behavior and make them stop doing inappropriate things? Instead of telling your child what to do, give them choices that they can make on their own. Instead of focusing on the negative, the choices will allow the child to make a positive decision. If you go out to your garden, and you find your child digging up everything you just planted, this could be a very troubling situation.
Even if you feel like yelling at your kids, don't do it, as it could have adverse reactions. Some of us have a temper problem, but we should learn to control it and do as little as possible. There are many unwanted consequences that may occur if you do this on a regular basis. You can actually desensitize your kids by yelling at them constantly which makes it pointless. It may be detrimental to your children to shout at them as they will pick up this habit and start shouting at other people including family and friends. Rather than yelling, try lowering your voice when you want them to do something.
You simply can't be prepared for every possibility that you'll encounter as a parent. But if you work with a solid set of guiding principles, you can usually make the right decision, or at least avoid making any serious mistakes. As much as you try to guide and protect your kids, though, they have their own lives to live, and they will ultimately decide the course of their own lives.